Our rabbis say that the Temple in Jerusalem was more likely destroyed due to Sinat Chinam, a hatred of each other, than from the Sinat Yisrael from our enemies. How do we bring about the restoration of Temple, whether figuratively or spiritually and hasten the coming of the Messianic Era so we can finally stop mourning? - with Ahavat Yisrael, the love of one another.

Maimonides offered a formula that has often been referred to as “senseless love.” We must reach out to each other without agendas. The process is transformative in the way that it changes our focus:

• We are obligated to speak well of other people, sharing our joy at having glimpsed his/her inner beauty. The act of speaking positively allies us to each other. It makes us aware that we are on one team. As my mother, Zichrona Livracha, often said as I was growing up, "You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.”

• We are obligated to care for each other’s material needs. By being aware of how frail and needy our bodies make us, we become more forgiving and tolerant. One way we can do this is through the giving of Tzedaka. In these finacially troubled times, extra money may be hard to come by, but you can always give of yourself. I remember when I was younger, that my family often was checked out by the IRS because they couldn’t believe that so much charity could be given with such little income.

• We are obligated to seek out situations that bring honor to others. By doing so, we give them the precious gift of self-esteem and simultaneously remove ourselves from the egotistical traps of center stage. Remember, there is no “I” in team. I’m sure you have heard that before.

This three-step process is deceptively simple. Yet it can change us dramatically. It can change not only our relationship to others, but can lead us to rediscover ourselves. In doing so, the endless mourning for our lost selves, and for our national tragedies, will cease.

For two millennia, the Jewish people have been targeted again and again by hatred and persecution. It seems that we are held together by the world’s hatred rather than by love for each other. Yet things can change. We only need to take the steps from hatred to love, from criticism to appreciation to bring the Mashiach into our world and to end the need for the mourning of a destroyed building, which in truth today is just representative of lost nationhood, which is already in the process of being restored. Harachaman hu yivarech … Bless the State of Israel the dawn of our redemption. To quote the Beatles, “All We Need is Love.